Comedian Lily Tomlin is attributed with the words: Forgiveness is “letting go of every hope for a better past.” Say that out loud: LET GO OF EVERY HOPE FOR A BETTER PAST.
I love this idea. It came up in a book my study group has been reading called Redeeming Administration by Ann Garrido. Ann also noted that when Jesus entered the Upper Room, where all the apostles were gathering after his death, Jesus visits them and greets them with Peace. He does not dwell on their past behavior, their fear, their abandonment of him, and their failure to stand with him in his hour of need.