Blog by Associate Colette Parker

I’m pretty sure that I’m not the only person who has been taught to respond with kindness.

I’m also pretty sure that I’m not the only person who has been the target of a gut-wrenching insult.

When that happens, it can be difficult to respond with kindness.

Sometimes, you just have to clap back (respond quickly to critical remarks or unfair treatment).

In case you missed it, the editorial board at The Baltimore Sun did just that, after much of its city was described as a place where “no human being would want to live”; as a “very dangerous and filthy place”; and as a “rat and rodent-infested mess”.

The board fired back: “Better to have a few rats than to be one”

The interchange got me thinking about the times in my life when I’ve needed to use the power of my voice to set the record straight; to speak up for others who have no voice or are unable to speak for themselves; to speak up when I see a wrong or injustice being done; etc.

As people of goodwill, we must learn to speak truth to power – to confront those who hold important positions, to demand a moral response to a problem. I know it means taking a risk; but more importantly, it means taking a stand for what you truly believe. It is a powerful nonviolent response to injustice and abuse of power.

Because we espouse a truth that love endures and overcomes (and hatred destroys), speaking up can be a true act of humanity. Silence is not always golden. In fact, silence can sometimes be seen as complicit agreement or approval.

Sometimes we sit back and say nothing when something really needs to be said. It could be an idea, a suggestion, an observation, a criticism…but for some reason we don’t speak up.

We may be afraid of hurting another person, looking mean or foolish, or opening a can of worms that will make a mess. Sometimes it seems like staying silent is the wiser choice.

Despite the risk, standing up and saying your piece – with peace is best. It’s really okay to say “Ouch! Get off me!” when you’re being trampled on. It lets the other person know that you are being hurt and that they need to move.

Has there ever been a time when you knew you should have spoken up, but you didn’t? If so, how did it make you feel?

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Keep Calm and Stay Focused

Blog by Associate Colette Parker

What in the world is going on in our country? – children being separated from their parents at the southern border and placed in cages; people trying to “normalize” white supremacy and the belief that America belongs to white people; immigration hardliners comparing immigrants to rats and suggesting those seeking asylum can instead “go home”; politicians stoking racism, xenophobia, and fear; human trafficking is an epidemic; gun violence is at a level not seen in decades; the impacts of climate change are everywhere, the prison-industrial complex is big business, etc.

As I work to navigate what seems like never-ending chaos, I am reminded of a tweet from the Rev. James Martin, S.J.:

What Jesus never said: “Feed the hungry only if they have papers.” “Clothe the naked only if they’re from your country.” “Welcome the stranger only if there’s zero risk.” “Help the poor only if it’s convenient.” “Love your neighbor only if they look like you.”

His words implore me – as a Christian, as an Associate of the Dominican Sisters of Peace, as a human being — to stick with Jesus and to not to be drawn into the discord.

Jesus calls us to feed the hungry, clothe the naked, welcome the stranger, care for the sick, visit those who are in prison, help the poor, and love our neighbor.

I will continue to sow seeds of love, compassion, hope, harmony, calm and peace amid storms of fear, hatred, dishonesty, and injustice.

How about you?

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Shoutout to our Heroes in Blue who are Doing the Right Thing

Blog by Associate Colette Parker

I have a tendency to follow stories in my hometown newspaper.

For nearly a month, one of the top stories has been about the fatal shooting of a man by a South Bend (Ind.) police officer, who did not turn on his body camera prior to the shooting.

The incident has raised the issue — once again — of the impact, benefits, and consequences of body worn cameras.

One of the things that troubles me is that the body camera sometimes gets a bad rap – I think because, in general, we tend to view cameras as a tool “to catch” police officers doing something wrong (a reasonable conclusion, considering that the big push for cameras nationwide was in response to the number of high profile shootings of unarmed black men by police officers).

I think that body (and dash) cameras do offer the potential to increase police transparency and accountability.  But guess what? The cameras can also “catch” officers in the act of doing something right (or doing something good).

I saw concrete evidence of that a few days ago when the Berkeley County Sheriff’s Office in South Carolina released body camera footage of Deputy W. Kimbro taking life-saving measures  that kept a 12-day-old baby alive and breathing until emergency personnel arrived on the scene.

Last year, dashcam video caught Kingston Crowell and Marion County Sheriff’s Deputy Jeremie Nix saving the life of a three-month old baby who was choking.

Then there was the footage released in 2017 by the Savannah-Chatham Metropolitan Police Department in Georgia that shows Officer William Eng taking a one-month old baby who was not breathing into his arms and administering chest compressions, until she let out a cry and started breathing.

Since 2015, when President Obama pledged funding for a nationwide program to equip police departments with body cameras, research has shown some interesting facts, Including:

  • Police leadership organizations have publicly supported the use of body worn cameras
  • Resident advocacy and human rights groups embrace the use of cameras
  • Cameras can lead to reductions in police use of force and resident complaints
  • Cameras generate valuable evidence
  • Limitations affect the likelihood that cameras will capture a complete visual and audio record of what has transpired.


That said, we need to be realistic about what body and dash cameras can and cannot do.

And we need to change the narrative to include the fact that body and dash cameras can also capture the heroic efforts of our law enforcement officers. I am sure that officers Eng, Nix, and Kimbro are just a few of our dedicated law enforcement officers who have been caught in the act of doing heroic deeds.

I wonder what we would find, if we reviewed all of the police video footage ever collected – more officers doing the wrong thing or more officers doing the right thing?


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Why I Became an Associate of the Dominican Sisters of Peace

Blog by Associate Frank Bevvino

As a new Associate of the Dominican Sisters of Peace I am proud to be a part of the Dominican family.  What drew me to become an Associate was a desire to become part of a community dedicated to prayer, study and building church and community. Simply stated, I wanted to proclaim the Gospel in many different formats.

As a deacon I have the privilege of preaching regularly at the Sacred Liturgy. However, St. Dominic saw the message of the gospel needed to be proclaimed not just to churchgoers but to all people: Christian and non-Christian.

At a time when social justice issues and the need to ensure all people are treated as God’s children, I felt a need to become part of a community that transcends the boundaries of the parish.

For many years, I have been interested in the life of St Francis and thought that someday I would become affiliated with the Franciscans. I expressed this one day to Sr. Bea Tiboldi, OP. She asked me: “Why not a Dominican? and gave me a few books on St Dominic. As I read the books, I began to see similarities with St Francis. Dominic, however, focused on spreading the WORD to all people through preaching and outreach.

St Dominic’s approach was, for me, “catholic” (universal).  This appealed to me in light of where the Catholic church is today in the early decades of the 21st Century. The church is desperately in need of reform. It needs a new “aggiornamento” to revive the openness that Vatican II sought to achieve; a church that is inclusive and welcoming. Dominic’s emphasis on prayer, study, preaching and community brought together the things in my life that have brought me along my faith journey.

As I began to attend associate meetings and meet with my mentors, I was asked to read the Associates guidebook and reflect on what I read. I was also asked to seek out Dominicans who best represented the Dominican charism. This was not an easy task. In fact, during my search I came across a book written by Sr. Mary Jane Dorcy, OP entitled, St Dominic’s Family. The book tells the story of the lives of more than 300 famous Dominicans. The Dominican family has a wealth of contributors to Church history. Following St Dominic’s example are many women and men who have proclaimed Christ in a manner indicative of building church. However, what I was looking for was a contemporary example. I found one in Yves Congar, OP.

Yves Congar, a French Dominican priest, was one of the pioneers in the Church’s theology on ecumenism and the place of the laity in the Church. Pope John XXIII appointed him as a counselor at the Second Vatican Council. Congar’s personal influence on the Second Vatican Council was far reaching. It included lecturing international groups of bishops and helping to draft conciliar documents. Congar’s hand can be discerned in almost every major document produced by the Council Fathers. Congar was made a Cardinal by Pope John Paul II in 1994, shortly before his death.

Reading about Congar led me to discover the brilliant minds of many Dominicans of the 19th and 20th Centuries: Chenu, Schillebeeckx, Gutiérrez, and many more. These names are just a continuation of the long history of Dominicans that have contributed greatly in spreading the Good News, including Thomas Aquinas, Albert the Great, Rose of Lima and  Catherine of Siena.

Today, the Dominican Sisters of Peace are preaching the Gospel worldwide in outreach programs, calling for an end of gun violence and the death penalty and advocating for equal rights for minorities and the safe treatment of migrant families entering the United States and other countries.

As Associates, we are fortunate to be part of a community dedicated to preaching the Gospel and praying together as a family united under St Dominic. The rich history of the Dominican Order demonstrates the success and divinely inspired efforts of St Dominic.

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Blog by Associate Colette Parker

Once you start laughing, you start healing.

That is something one of my late mentor’s used to say. He would say “Colette, you will always be able to conquer anything as long as you can continue to laugh in the midst of adversity. Laughter is the best medicine you can have.”

I was reminded of his words recently when I heard a new gospel song by BeBe Winans and Korean Soul called “Laughter Just Like Medicine.”

It turns out that the singers and my beloved mentor (a psychologist and religious brother) are right.

Scientists and researchers say that laughing is medically beneficial. Studies show that laughter boosts the immune system and triggers the release of pleasure-inducing neurochemicals in the brain.

Laughter improves the function of blood vessels and increase blood flow; reduces pain and allows toleration of discomfort; and relaxes the body. It creates a positive emotional climate and a sense of connection between people and produces a general sense of well-being.

When was the last time you had a good laugh?

Go ahead, take your medicine. Click here to start: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WuQOnT6R6mY


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