My dad was a Marine serving at Camp Lejeune, North Carolina when I was born in the Naval Medical Center on the base. My Mom still laughs that even giving birth was an exercise in the Marine way because after regaining consciousness after the delivery, a nurse popped in, put me in the crib next to her, and announced, “She’s all yours – you’re on your own!”
How many siblings do you have? Are you the youngest, oldest, middle child, only child? I am the middle child of three. I have an older brother Paul and a younger sister Amy with whom I am the best of friends.
Did you attend Catholic elementary school or high school? There were not a lot of Catholic schools in the South where I was raised, so I attended public schools growing up in North Carolina and Virginia. After high school, I attended Chestnut Hill, a small Catholic women’s college run by the Sisters of St. Joseph of Philadelphia. It was a welcome change after my experience at a very large public high school.
What post-high school education did you receive? As an undergraduate, I majored in Biology, with the intention of entering the medical field. When I moved back to Virginia, I worked as a purchasing agent for a hospital, then for my local county government office.
After entering the convent, I earned a Masters in Christian Spirituality from Creighton University in Omaha, and I am certified in Spiritual Direction and Directed Retreats.
How old were you when you felt the call to religious life? Well, having gone to public school, I did not know any Sisters before college, and while I liked the Sisters of St. Joseph, I didn’t feel like I fit with them. I was introduced to the Dominican community when I attended a retreat for young single women. I was on summer break from college, as were my siblings, and the idea of three days of peace and quiet sounded good. So I went and I kept going.
I got more serious about religious life after I graduated from college and began to attend not just retreats but also to volunteer at the retreat center in McLean, VA.
I loved volunteering because I saw the “behind the scenes” of community life – the intelligence of the Sisters, their interests and involvement in contemporary social issues, and the way that they examined those issues through the lens of their faith; it was a revelation to me.
When I was about 24, Sr. Anne Lythgoe, then a Dominican Sister of St. Catherine of di Ricci, started a discernment group at the retreat house for young women, and my interest really blossomed. The opportunity to explore religious life, to understand the vows, to experience the community, and to get serious about my faith, all in the company of like-minded women, was invaluable to my discernment.
Who was most supportive of your becoming a sister? Did anyone try to convince you to take another path? My sister Amy’s support for my vocation never wavered; she was always happy for me and supported my decision to enter religious life. My parents were apprehensive at first because they worried that I wouldn’t be happy. They were not familiar with consecrated religious life, and they were concerned that I would be cloistered, away from my family and friends, and lonely. However, that all changed as I advanced through religious formation, became a Novice and then a Professed Sister. They saw me mature and flourish, and my mother and father got to know the sisters and our congregation. I am proud to say that they have visited me everywhere I have been missioned – they’ve even volunteered in our ministry.
What attracted you to the Dominican order? The preaching. I had never seen women preach, and honestly, I was a little unsure about it. But watching how the Sisters studied the Bible, how they broke open the Word from a feminine perspective, and shared it in a way that was so relevant to my life, hearing them just made me feel alive.
What attracted me to the Dominican Sisters of Peace was their connection to the world, their concern for and involvement in the issues of the day, and their desire to sow peace and encourage justice, in the way that Christ did.
What do you like about being a religious sister? Being part of something larger than myself. As a Dominican Sister of Peace, I am part of a network of hundreds of thousands of Dominicans and religious around the world. This network of Sisters may not be politically powerful, but we are powerfully persuasive when we join together to take action. As an individual I may feel very small, but with religious Sisters and Brothers around the world, I am part of a mighty voice for the voiceless and hope for the hopeless.
What has been the most challenging aspect of being a religious Sister? I am lucky because the most challenging thing about being a religious Sister is an issue that I am directly involved in improving. Like my own parents, many people misunderstand religious Sisters and religious life. They lump all religious together and assume they know about religious life from movies or TV shows. As a Vocations Minister, part of my job is to teach people about religious life, and show those both in and outside of the Church that every congregation, every order, and every Sister is unique and that this is a way of life that is alive and needed today.
What ministries have you been involved in? I served in our retreat ministry full time for 18 years. I led and directed retreats, conducted spiritual direction – whatever was needed. I was a member of Leadership for the Dominican Sisters of St. Catherine di Ricci during the time that we were discerning and then transitioning to become part of the Dominican Sisters of Peace, and cared for our retired and infirm sisters at the time. As the transition moved forward, I became what I called a “relocation administrator,” helping more than 25 Sisters move from one Motherhouse or convent to another.
Today, I am a member of the Vocations team. I describe myself as a “talent scout” for the Dominican Sisters of Peace. That means a lot of travel, meeting with new people, and educating others in person at presentations and retreats, or online via Zoom, blogs, podcasts and social media.
What particular spiritual practice is most important to you in your faith life and why? I start and end my day with centering prayer. This 20 minutes of contemplative prayer lets me unite myself with God and listen to God’s plans for me. It’s how I ground myself for each day and re-ground myself at night.
I also find daily prayers (the Liturgy of the Hours) and faith sharing with my Sisters an important way of being part of the Community.
What are your hobbies and interests? I love to read. I also love to hike, and my favorite places for hiking are our beautiful national parks. I actually have the National Parks passport, and anytime I am on the road for a vocations trip (which is pretty often!), I try to take quick little side trips to see new parks or visit old favorites.
What is your favorite Dominican quote? “Be who God meant you to be and you will set the world on fire” from Saint Catherine of Siena, Dominican mystic and Doctor of the Church.
What are your thoughts on the future of religious life? I can’t pretend that I can see the future, but I am excited to see what religious life will look like in ten years. The life that we were called to continues to change and evolve, but our core values, the values that were presented to us by Jesus, remain the same.
There will always be a need for hope in our world – hope that religious life can offer. I believe that despite the challenges faced by the Church and by our organizations, even in the worst of times, women will drop their nets and choose a religious life of faith and service.